Albert was living a sad existence. Everywhere he went, people didn’t accept him. No matter what he did, it seemed that people always saw him as a waste of time and did not speak to him. Everyone else seemed to get the better deal, and it seemed pretty much that nobody ever game him a chance.
He blamed everything and everyone. From being a hard worker, he soon gave up and avoided work, passing the buck to others. Soon, it came to a point where his wife confronted him.
It seems a lot of people are looking to become good life coaches.
I’ve discovered that really great coaches are not hard to find, they’re just hard to develop. They are a special breed of people who want to do the right thing for a noble (sometimes lofty or idealistic) purpose.
So what exactly is coaching in the first place? As a good coach, you need (i) experience connecting with people you can help, (ii) looking for patterns of behavior that can help them move toward the direction of their choice, and (iii) resolve limiting patterns of behavior by looking for resources they already have, which they could missed.
This interesting question popped up when I was speaking to one of our coaches during the Patterns Of Excellence program. When someone is lost, under what conditions would one be lost?
Here are common responses:
It wasn’t long before I realized that people who are “lost” are looking for a solution on the outside rather than on the inside. In other words, you can go out there and do one of the following:
I think many people are in a state of flux, looking for ways to achieve things and yet being caught up with feelings that conflict with the results they want. In the end, they stay where they are.
This is known to many people as ‘learned helplessness’, or the inability to do something because of a fear of what will happen. This fear is so intense that being punished for not moving forward has no effect, and the individual is trapped in the ultimate dilemma of being punished regardless of what choice is made.
Just a quick post here. I’m not sure if any of you have watched Star Wars, or if you are fans. Personally, I’m not crazy about it, but there are lessons to learn there.
Firstly, you have Yoda who represents the Mentor. It’s a person that almost everyone needs to have in their life. If you are without a mentor, then there will be experience that cannot be learned simply through your own experience. The Mentor guides you down the right path.
I was just watching the 2009 Oprah Show “Class In America” and listening to how so many people are getting angry and upset by people who are rich. Sure, there’s lots of people who are now retrenched and can’t find a job, but I think this has probably caused a change in consciousness.
Recently, I was conducting a training program for a corporation. One guy in particular was pretty low in energy and was constantly not paying attention, looking away and appearing fairly uninterested. He was probably in his mid-40s. During the second day, I had a chance to interact with this person and found out that he had been retrenched for over 18 months and was on this new job for only a few months.
