In my experience working with clients, I’ve often discovered that the biggest issue in creating change is the fact that they are surrounded by a system within their present environment that enables them to continue to be the way they are (psychotherapist Paul Wachtel calls them ‘accomplices’ in his book Therapeutic Communication).
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I’m not sure if you’ve heard about rapport building. In the context of NLP, rapport building is a great way to initiate and maintain positive interaction with others. Which brings me to the point on why leaders need to understand it in the first place.
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Problem #3: Inability to read other people’s intent
Have you ever had a time where you wish someone could see your point? Where they seem defensive and speak as though you intended to offend them? Well, welcome to the inner world of individual differences. Everyone has a different mental model.
Here I continue from by previous post on the psychology of leadership. We delved into Problem #1 – The inability to listen.
Another major issue we have to explore in leadership is the ability for a person in power to be a people person.
Problem #2 – Not Being a People Person.
It doesn’t surprise me that a lot of leadership really is about building interpersonal skills and communication capabilities. Nor should it surprise you. Yet, most people think good leaders are those who are articulate.
I last talked about the Psychology Of Leadership and I thought it apt to discuss the topic on the psychology of teams, especially since I teach this to corporate clients in my Change Management workshops.
Have you noticed that some people work well in a team but some others just don’t? I’d been wondering about that myself and I realized several factors that influence the ability for someone to be part of such a team bonding event.
Leadership development is one of the most important skills a working individual should build on if they intend to improve their standing in the working world. I believe that leadership is really the ability to convince and win people over.
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I was in my reservist training recently and a senior commander commented that once he went into the higher echelons of leadership, it was no longer about rank, but about the ability to persuade people, including your superiors about the merits of your plans and ideas.
