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December 31st, 2009

Personal Development: How To Write A Book #1

One of my friends, Jay Conrad Levinson, the author of the Guerilla Marketing book series and the best selling marketing book series in the world, has authored 56 different books in his lifetime.

To me, that’s a great number to look forward to. I’m intending to break the record of the total number of books an individual can write in a lifetime, because I think there’s lots of stuff in my head that’s waiting to come out into a written form. (hence the blog, heh)

I recently started stepping up on writing my peak performance books (I’ll keep it a secret as to what they are, but suffice to say that one of them is 80% done, and the other two are 20% complete), and I realized there are a lot of people who tell me how amazing my books have been

Well, personally, I don’t think I’ve achieved anything great, but when I tell others that they also have a book in them, they tell me all sorts of things.

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“Oh, I can’t do it. My English isn’t good enough”

“I don’t have time to write”

“I want to write but I get the mental block all the time”

The trouble is not that they don’t have skills in writing, but they don’t have the pre-requisite skills to be able to be a writer in the first place .You have to have world experience. You need to learn how to use words to affect, influence and capture the imagination of others.

And the most important thing is that writing a good book merely requires you to provide information that is useful in an appetizing way. This is an art that can be learnt.

The way I started was through the process of persuasive language. There’s always something that enables people to buy into whatever you say or sell. In reality, good authors are able to affect the hearts and minds of their readers. After all, they appeal to a specific segment of readers.

I’m quite privileged to have been able to write several books with great co-authors. But I can tell you that the first one is always the toughest one. It’s like building a muscle. You have to strain and stretch and sometimes stumble before you get to a point of being able to make your next book easier and more effective.

What I can say for the first lesson is this – you really have to start off with a sense of excitement in what you want to share. That will be your first point of exploration. And, uh, if you don’t have much exciting stuff in your life, perhaps it’s time to explore yourself and figure out the reason why. That itself is going to be pretty interesting already.

The rest of it are just mere details.

December 21st, 2009

Personal Development Singapore: 关系 (guan xi) / Relationships

After speaking to a close friend of mine about business in China, he enlightened me quite a bit about the way business is done in China. For example, it is commonly known that 关系 (guan1 xi4), or relationship, is often used as a pretext for developing a business relationship. They even go so far as to say that ALL business depends on 关系.

In my limited time in business, I have found a few truths. Firstly, the whole idea that successful business is about relationships alone is a whole load of B.S.. Relationships matter period, regardless of business or not. After all, you will want to retain some kind of relationship with people who are nice, who are willing to help some time or other.

Secondly, people who merely rely on relationships will find that when they run out of relationships, or when their “network” can’t or won’t help out, they will find themselves stranded, being unable to establish success on their own steam.

Let me give you an analogy. Do you remember the time when you were back in school and had a really tough time with an assignment? If you merely rely on relationships, you are going to do this: since you know your teacher is a nice guy/friend of a relative, you can stop studying and not improve your grades through doing your homework. You simply turn up 7 days later saying it’s really hard to do and you couldn’t do it, and s/he might just show you how to do it.

Conversely, if you’re the sort that bashes his/her head on the wall in order to get to a solution, but can’t find the answer, your teacher is going to know. Whether or not s/he likes you, s/he probably can find evidence that you really did your best. You might actually have proof of work that is incomplete. Then, you might have distilled it to one thing that you need clarification about. You ask the questions to your teacher, you get an answer, and you actually can find a solution. This time, you have achieved success. You did 99% of the work, and needed 1% (you would have gotten there eventually on your own steam) of help. Ultimately, compare this with the previous scenario where you only did an amazing 0% of the work.

Who controls his destiny now?

It’s of utmost importance to everyone to know that, yes, relationships are important, but you need to be someone worth building a relationship with in the first place.

What successes do you have that are worth respecting?

What ways have you helped people in ways that help them to stand on their feet rather than give them pure handouts?

So, make sure you develop yourself first. Then, you can really contribute to others in a positive relationship.