You may read lots of self-help books. You might be a proponent of the law of attraction. You might be a personal development junkie. But it begs the question: why am I not successful?
Here are a few questions for you to clarify your thinking a little bit.
- Whose benchmark of success are you choosing? In many cases, someone else’s idea of success, no matter how appealing, may not be suitable for you.
- Does your idea of achievement of success require you to ‘do’ things? A lot of the time, we get caught up in ‘doing’ so that we can ‘be’. Very often, it is the core of the person that determines their actions: behaviors themselves don’t necessary equate to the person. You can do all the things Steve Jobs or Bill Gates do, but ultimately it is their beliefs, perspective on life, values and experience that makes them who they are.
- Have you taken action to test the extent of success? Like they say – think big but start by creating small successes. If you’re an armchair self-help person, you’ll be a little disappointed. It’s like wanting to brush your teeth by thinking about the philosophy of brushing instead of actually reaching results.
Stuart Tan, MBA, SDCG, BA (Hons), is a Licensed NLP Trainer since 1997, a trained counselor and therapist since 1999, and a leadership, team performance and change management consultant. He certifies NLP Practitioners and Master Practitioners through a competency based approach. He is also an executive coach and life coach.
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